I read an article today called 8 Things No One Tells You About Marriage. I was curious to see what no one was telling me.
A few of the list topics were:
• “You will look at the person lying next to you and wonder, Is this it? Forever?”
• “A great marriage doesn’t mean no conflict.”
• “Getting your way is usually not as important as finding a way to work together.”
To me these ideas seemed rather obvious, like basic marriage fundamentals. Then it occurred to me that I am a seasoned (but by no means perfect )veteran, and there are people who really do need this information. But how and when do we learn these fundamentals? While dating? During the marriage itself? After a failed marriage?
I think in general, real life experience and maturity certainly play a role in this learning. A research study by the CDC showed that women who married at age 18 or under are two times as likely to divorce within 10 years, compared to women who were at least age 25 at the time of marriage. In addition, the actual percentage of failed first marriages by those 18 and under was 48%.
Should there then, be an age limit for marriage? We have age limits for everything else: getting your driver’s license, buying cigarettes, drinking alcohol, voting, entering the military. And where there are no age limits, there are often co-signers: getting your first credit card, buying your first car or house. While possibly not a practical idea, it could certainly go a long way towards helping people to gain valuable experience in their own lives before deciding to share it forever with someone else.